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An interesting piece. I feel that the young lady is influenced by our twisted society WAY TOO MUCH!!! It is good that she sort of accepts her parent's nudity, but she is uncomfortable with her peers knowing about it. Given the attitudes of today's society, I can understand though. Some people of her age ARE nudist, and are not afraid to buck society's trends. Some just have the fortitude and inner strength to do so. It would have been interesting to have been told the ages and sex of her siblings who do sometimes practice nudity.

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I agree. While she is accepting of her parents and their naturist “ways” I kinda feel like she really doesn’t understand the mindset of a naturist/nudist. Or understands and can’t accept the same mindset.

Which is a shame. While she appears to have a good head on her shoulders from what we’ve read here, she doesn’t seem to understand how important body acceptance is, and more importantly, what others think of her, her sibs or parents, doesn’t really matter. It’s how she thinks of herself that matters. Some people are drawn to this way of living simply because of how accepting naturists/nudists are.

I was this way. While I’ve always been one not to like wearing clothes, I didn’t understand the mindset. Once I learned the way naturists/ nudists think, treat other people, I realized, this is me, I became a nudist. And it was actually years before I appeared in or at a nudist venue. Being nude with others is not a requirement to being a naturist/nudist. (Although it helps you embrace it So Much More!)

I’d like to think she may try it at some point in her life. Alone or with her family. Get over the “fear” of what her friends think. Real friends wouldn’t treat her any different. And just look at all the new, like minded, friends she would have.

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Let’s cut a teenager some slack. And let’s also recognize that her opinion is very much evolved compared to most people, young and old, these days. And also that she holds this opinion despite being subjected to ridicule. And that she can choose how she wishes to live and that her parents are awesome for allowing autonomy.

I honestly can’t understand anyone who doesn’t see what she wrote as pretty awesome and enlightened.

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I’ll note, too, that we need allies who are unlike us and complaining that their allyship isn’t good enough and they must share our perspective on everything (which even we as a community cannot agree on) is counterproductive.

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Accepting of her parents...

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Goes to sure that the bare your naked body in photos online mode of nudism that has been adopted by much of the nudist community online doesn’t actually work for everyone. We need to get away from the idea that nudism amounts to naked bodies and recognize that each person has a different situation and experience and stop trying to put everyone in a singular box. Isn’t that what nudist say is being done to them.

Marc Alain Descamps words rang in my ears as I read this piece.

Naturism is practised in many ways: individual nudism, nudism within family, nudism in the wild, social nudism. Additionally, militant nudism, including campaigning or extreme naturists, is sometimes considered a separate category.

Naturism should never be imposed on those who do not want it. Many people are very ashamed of their body, their sex and are traumatized by the sight of the human body, so they can never get naked. And it is necessary to respect their state, as in the various phobias. Many people can’t stand the sight of mice, spiders or snakes and you shouldn’t force them.

This important perspective seems to have disappeared in nudist culture online.

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High School can be a cruel and unusual place for many teenagers, for absolutely no other reason than that is what teenagers do to each other. Scapegoating anyone who departs from the norm in any way is natural and ordinary. That does not make it right. It just makes those years an awful experience.

The author of this essay appears to me to be strong and resilient, well balanced and mature. I salute her courage, give thanks that she has loving and supportive parents and siblings. I hope and trust that her experience as the child of naturist parents will continue to help form her character in a thousand healthy ways as she develops into adulthood.

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Although the experience was a challenging one for her,she really handled it well.It's good to see that she understands and respects her parents" choices eventhough it's not for her.That is a level of maturity many adults never achieve.Great article all around.

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may I suggest that you invite a cple of ur closest friends to your home without u having to scurry around removed the pictures u referenced, then when the see and question them, explain in ur own terms a summation of what u've written so that they have a true representation of the nudist environment that u live in..Also it would be most helpful for one or both of ur parents to be available hopefully presenting themselves , if not totally nude, at least partially to ease the comfort zone into the family scene. i'm sure if u discuss this w/ ur parents they will be able to assist you in blending your friends into at least an acceptance mode....good luck

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Your idea of inviting high scool age friends over to meet your nude parents is dangerous becausemionors are not considered legally able to give that kind of consent. Such a plan would require consent (probably written) from the parents of the visiting minor child.

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Thank you for sharing this articulate piece.

Kids can be cruel, and as someone with a surname that attracted ridicule throughout my school years, I have first-hand knowledge of just how difficult teenagers can make life if you give them anything to pick out as different.

Despite the ridicule that the author experienced, they seem to have a healthy and mature outlook on things, which hopefully will help overcome the distress endured.

Please pass on my appreciation and thanks to the author for this contribution.

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This is well done and a quite healthy attitude.

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Well thought out and expressed comments.

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Well thought out and expressed comments.

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I like this article very much. I had several issues while in high school that raised ridicule from other students. I also talked a good game then about how the views of others were theirs and not mine. But, in all honesty, those years hurt. It took decades of adulthood to heal some of those wounds.

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