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Edward Bionic's avatar

I've tried tirelessly to be an advocate for these very principles over the last few years, and let me tell you... It's a thankless and frustrating job. You are right to be skeptical. Even on Wreck Beach, a place that... Before the pandemic... Was a Haven of comfort and safety for all, have I seen a massive increase in disgusting behavior from men, including a few long time regulars that have suddenly become emboldened enough that they've created little 'cliques' where they only allow 'young hot people' in their spaces, while simultaneously going on the Wreck Beach Facebook group to lament the lack of good looking tanned people.

Then there's ONLINE. From Twitter to private owned websites, the proliferation of misogyny has been brutal. 'Nudist' men shoving porn and erotica into everyone's faces, commenting endlessly on women's accounts with gross objectification, posting penis-centric selfies, attacking anyone that calls them out, commenting negatively on diversity stories, etc.

We've seen plenty of examples here on Planet Nude as well, and that's just the ones that are bold enough to be outwardly nasty... Because you're right in that we have a problem with too many people that are SILENT on this issue. Perhaps they don't want to rock the boat. Perhaps they've built friendships they aren't strong enough to stand up to, perhaps they sit in agreement but don't want to say it out loud yet... Whatever the case, the most frustrating thing for me is watching too many people simply stay silent as we watch society devolve in real time all around us. While women disappear from nudist spaces consistently, and we're left with a hundred posts from men (and some women that are married to the patriarchy) wondering where the hell the women are.

Here's the thing men.. Women aren't stupid. They see you. They see what you are, and what you aren't. They aren't going to hang out in spaces where they are being objectified, depowered and infantilized. They aren't going to feel free and safe in spaces filled with pornography and rude comments and negative reactions to queer inclusivity and silence or hostility to progressive issues.

And while there are some women that are able to stick with it and fight for the right to be in these spaces, it can't be used as an anecdote that so many men's awful behaviour is fine. It isn't. The more we accept or stay silent about that behaviour the more it will grow, and everyone has a breaking point. I'm watching more and more long time nudist advocates fleeing the community, and it's upsetting and insane.

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Larry's avatar

It is very scary and contrary to how I was brought up and lived my life. I see it getting much worse before better especially with what has happened in the States.

May God bless.

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