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Nikki L.'s avatar

This author is a friend of mine and is always helping me to pull back the veil and see things as they are. I'm a woman who's been involved in naturism for almost 20 years. I occasionally invite female friends to naturist settings, and I stay close to them, crossing my fingers that they have a safe and enjoyable time. It's changed my life for the better and I like the idea that it will help them too. But it's not a Utopia; I dream that it could be eventually.

I used to work as a receptionist in a naturist park and often described the first experience to callers. I'd say that we remove the clothing, allowing us to be vulnerable together, and we meet people for who they really are. What's tricky to remove is our conditioning of the textile world. As the author describes the duty to be beautiful, I had flashbacks of moments I've served in the bistro and had men complimenting my body. It made me very uncomfortable. I'd suggest that they don't comment on people's bodies, and they were very put off that I didn't just bat my lashes and say 'thank you'.

But if I did that, I'd be giving a signal that I'm ok with the behaviour, and the flirtation could escalate, perhaps with expectations that something more could happen between us. I spend time in naturism to feel safe and seen as an individual. Most of the time that happens, and I am respected, and I've made amazing connections and have built trust with myself and others.

I have such hope for us as a people to be healed from our body shame and our misunderstanding gender roles. I'm a public naturist on Instagram who is working to educate. I've received so many outrageous comments, etc. and instead of blocking them right away, I ask questions. Why did you send me that? What are you hoping for? What are assuming about me that you would ask me that question? I don't feel like a victim when dealing with ridiculousness, I feel on top of my game. If I can start to shift some perceptions, that is a worthy cause. But that's what I've sign up for, it's not the responsibility of every woman to be bold.

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Le garçon nu's avatar

I agree completely. Some of the things that first brought my wife and I to naturism is 1) that it de-objectifies the body. 2) Unlike media images, nudism shows average, normal bodies. 3)Neither women nor men are subject to lascivious gazes.

So yes, women have been subject to objectification and Naturism is the cure.

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